Sometimes happiness comes under the most unexpected of circumstances.

I am a forty-something mom who has a PhD from Yale University, where I met my  beloved ex.  We had some very wonderful years together but hit some insurmountable obstacles and he eventually ended the marriage.  I was devastated because I loved him and never considered divorce an option.

However, once it happened, I found a whole new life and identity.  Joseph Campbell has a great line “We must be willing to give up the life we’ve planned in order to get the life that is waiting for us.”  It turns out that I had a pretty interesting and fun life waiting for me.  And now I am blogging about it.

We all know that divorce occurs in roughly half of all marriages in this country.  While it is not my intention to advocate for divorce, I have learned through my experience that it can be quite beneficial in certain circumstances.  I am sharing my own insights and lessons as a means of offering a positive example to others who are going through a similar experience.  I want to inspire others to put aside some of their anger and resentment and find a way to remain friends with your ex spouse, not just for the sake of the kids, but for your own sake as well.

However, this isn’t just a blog for divorcees.  I write about relationships of all kinds, how I strive to find happiness in my daily life, and parenting.  Many of my married friends read it and love it.  Either I offer them vicarious pleasure or I am a cautionary tale.

I hope that enjoy your visit here.  If you are wondering how I got a peaceful divorce, check this out.

I have published three essays in the Huffington Post Divorce section.  One is on how we can help our sons of divorce, who have a higher rate of suicidal thoughts.  Another, which was stirred up quite the controversy, is about the strategies that I employed to make my divorce peaceful.  The third piece is about my attempt to see my ex in a different light after we split up.

If you have questions or want more information, you can contact me at me@postcardsfromapeacefuldivorce.com

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