Postcards from a Peaceful Divorce

The joys, challenges, and humorous moments of divorced living by Molly Monet

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17 Comments on “Loving What Is”

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   1 Adrienne said at 4:12 pm on June 23rd, 2011:

   ahhhhhh….no idea how this sent a wave of calm over me! Just lovely…and perfect photo/last two lines!
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   2 Caroline said at 4:14 pm on June 23rd, 2011:

   Oh, that last line is Great! What if she were a rose? But, no she is a hydrangea, and she IS beautiful!
   Caroline recently posted..BIG Joy in the LITTLE Things

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   3 Molly Monet said at 4:29 pm on June 23rd, 2011:

   Thanks, gals. It made me feel better too when I wrote it. Everything has its own unique beauty. The trick is in noticing it.

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   4 ayala said at 6:30 pm on June 23rd, 2011:

   Everything does have it’s own beauty…I love this!
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   5 Howie said at 10:21 pm on June 23rd, 2011:

   I love this poem and hope that you do not mind that I adapted it to me. It gives me great comfort and hope. Thank you for creating this.

   There are so many ways life

   Can go, so many different paths

   What if you had not died

   What if we were still together

   I do not entertain those thoughts

   Those outcomes don’t belong to me

   I am walking along my path

   The one that was given me

   The one that somehow it happened

   Sometimes we have to give up

   The life that we previously planned

   In order to enjoy the life

   That is right here and now

   I appreciate a hydrangea without asking

   What if she were a rose.

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   6 Molly Monet said at 7:17 am on June 24th, 2011:

   Beautiful, Howie. I’m so glad that it spoke to you. That’s been the interesting thing about this blog. It isn’t just about divorce.

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   7 Kate B said at 7:29 am on June 24th, 2011:

   ‘Those outcomes don’t belong to me” . . .
   that’ll preach. I think that one line will be swirling around inside of me for a while. :)
   Kate B recently posted..Plank-Pullin

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   8 Molly Monet said at 7:57 am on June 24th, 2011:

   Thanks, Kate. It’s a good one for me to remember. I write to remind myself.

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   9 Sara said at 8:19 am on June 24th, 2011:

   I need to remember this “Those outcomes don’t belong to me”. I have a hard time not absorbing the criticism from others but I need to remember I’m on my own path, not theirs.

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    10 LaQueshia Jeffries said at 9:36 am on June 24th, 2011:

    Molly, I love that your blog is about love, life, and relationships. And of course divorce.

    Sometimes it takes another’s perspective or story to help us more fully realize where we are in life.

    And no, “she’s not a rose”, she just is who she is. :o)

    I love it.

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    11 aac said at 12:01 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    i love the noticing every time. it’s a special treat every single time.
    xo to you moll

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    12 Molly Monet said at 12:18 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    I am glad that you all resonated with the poem. While I love the title of my blog, it really is about love, life and relationships, LaQueshia. My divorce was simply the pretext that motivated me to start sharing.

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    13 Traci whitney said at 1:01 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    So beautiful Molly! I love this, and I think it really touches a lot of divorcees. It’s really hard sometimes not to think of the “what ifs” but that’s really the only way to heal and move on.

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    14 Belinda said at 3:44 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    Yes! This is exactly what I mean. So much of the what if is such a pointless waste of time when there is so much to appreciate about what is. Love this perspective.

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    15 Brook @ To Be Dancing said at 4:06 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    I love this. The hydrangea cannot be a rose, but neither can the rose be a hydrangea. They are both perfectly what they are meant to be. As long as you (as you said) don’t ask them to be what they aren’t. I was reminded of this quote:
    “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
    — Albert Einstein
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    16 Molly Monet said at 5:55 pm on June 24th, 2011:

    I love that quote, Brook. It’s exactly what I was thinking. And yes, Traci, we divorcees often live with a lot of regrets and self doubt. That will bring us nothing but pain. We’ve got to focus on appreciation, huh, Belinda?

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    17 Melissa said at 2:09 am on June 25th, 2011:

    Only this path, only right now.
    Hydrangeas and roses both have purpose!
    Lovely.

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