My Second Hand Man

Like me, you will have a

Few battle scars, albeit nicely healed.

You will have loved well and

Been loved, tenderly, passionately, maybe even

Too well, like a child’s bear

With lumpy stuffing, missing some hair.

You will crave companionship, yet need

Your independence, and that precious thing

We call space (a man cave?).

You will know yourself and do

what makes you happy, and I

Will gladly do the same. You

will take pleasure in my laugh,

And I will use it often

When you walk into the room.

We will not be each other’s

Lives, but merely be the finish

That allows the wood to shine.

You will delight in my children,

As all my friends do, really.

And my California family, no one

Can resist their energy and charisma.

And I will embrace your package

As well (no pun intended please!).

I’m sure to find you in

Some unexpected corner, behind used books

Or some funky sweaters or boots.

There you will be, waiting for

Me, my lovely second hand man.

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It is a Six Word Friday.

29 Comments on “My Second Hand Man”

1 ayala said at 9:01 am on February 11th, 2011:
Molly,what a beautiful wish for a second chance at love. I smiled at the package remark :) sorry I do understand what you mean. This is like a prayer-I wish it all comes true for you.
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2 Molly Monet said at 9:09 am on February 11th, 2011:
Oh Ayala, I have a sense of humor too ;) It does sort of feel like a prayer, or a vision. Thanks for your best wishes!
3 Juliana said at 10:10 am on February 11th, 2011:
That second hand man really does exist. It took some time and a lot of weird blind dates, but I finally found mine in the end. Good luck on your search! :-D
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4 Molly Monet said at 10:24 am on February 11th, 2011:
Thanks Juliana. I always love to hear success stories.
5 Brook said at 11:04 am on February 11th, 2011:
well, of course, the armor is a little rusted and perhaps dented, but there are still knights to be found. Even though we don’t need rescuing.
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6 Molly Monet said at 11:25 am on February 11th, 2011:
You are right, Brook. And I certainly don’t need rescuing but I could use some protection from time to time, couldn’t we all?
7 T said at 11:49 am on February 11th, 2011:
Have to be honest… it reminded me of my guy the whole way through.

Thanks for yet another reminder to appreciate. :)
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8 AdrienneMay said at 11:51 am on February 11th, 2011:
beautiful post!
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9 AdrienneMay said at 11:54 am on February 11th, 2011:
I love this story, i can relate in so many ways
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11 Molly Monet said at 12:15 pm on February 11th, 2011:
T, that warms my heart because your guy is great!
12 Molly Monet said at 12:17 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Thanks, Adrienne. It’s great to connect with you.
13 Tessa said at 2:05 pm on February 11th, 2011:
well put! I could use myself a second hand man as well (well…not quite yet, but a girl can dream).
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14 Molly Monet said at 2:31 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Tessa, dating is one of the benefits of post-divorce life. You can read one of my very first blog posts about my first dating experience after my breakup http://www.postcardsfromapeacefuldivorce.com/61/my-first-foray-into-dating/
15 Belinda said at 3:13 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Once again, your writing sparkles, Molly! Made me chuckle but also feel hopeful for every second hand man. You explore intimacy really well. xx
16 Molly Monet said at 3:58 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Thanks. I guess that’s what I am doing these days…exploring intimacy until I find a treasure that I want to keep ;)
17 Sara said at 4:01 pm on February 11th, 2011:
A little diddy from childhood popped into my head
“First is worst, second is best…”
:)
18 Molly Monet said at 4:49 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Oh Sara, that’s funny. The kids sing that song to me.
19 melissa said at 4:57 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Your second man is well defined.
(No pun intended there either! Maybe…)
;)
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20 Molly Monet said at 5:04 pm on February 11th, 2011:
Ha! Well, I wouldn’t turn down a nicely sculpted dude. I figure you have to know what you want to get it.
21 kate said at 5:29 pm on February 11th, 2011:
the images, so real, speak loud.
don’t we all need secondhand people?
i think so. i think so.
22 Molly Monet said at 8:58 am on February 12th, 2011:
Thanks, Kate. We all need second hand people because we are constantly developing new relationships and new life narratives. At this point in life, we are all hand-me-downs.
23 Mel Gallant said at 1:35 pm on February 12th, 2011:
“…but merely be the finish

That allows the wood to shine”

Love that line.
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24 Kelly said at 3:24 pm on February 12th, 2011:
My guy was the secondhand man.
Love thinking of us as the
finish allowing each to shine.
25 Sasha said at 3:58 pm on February 13th, 2011:
I love the teddy bear image, complete with the missing hair and stuffing :).
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26 Molly Monet said at 4:45 pm on February 13th, 2011:
Sasha, it occurred to me that many men my age kind of look like that ;)
27 aac said at 9:50 pm on February 13th, 2011:
your lovely second hand man will be a very lucky man.
xo
28 Molly Monet said at 11:41 am on February 14th, 2011:
Thank you dear!
29 Molly Monet said at 11:47 am on February 14th, 2011:
Thanks, Kelly. I love hearing about second hand men and the women who love them (a title for a book perhaps?)