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49 Years

Posted: December 28th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: marriage | Tags: , | 18 Comments »

Aren't my parents a dishy couple?

They met in 1961.

On a blind date.

While she was pinned to someone else.

That guy was soon forgotten,

As she agreed to marry my dad a few days later.

My Oma dropped a plate in surprise.

Then my mom took off for Europe for three months,

And they were married after Christmas.

A romantic, yet impulsive, beginning.

Throughout the years,

They have had their conflicts.

No doubt.

But they always work them out,

And neither of them holds grudges,

Nor takes the fights too seriously.

Their secret?

It’s not passion, nor values, nor their kids, nor sheer dedication,

Although they’ve had them all.

Mom says theirs is a spiritual union.

That doesn’t mean they’re united in God’s eyes,

And thus will be forever connected.

It means that they continue to help each other grow and learn.

And that’s an excitement that never gets old.

* * * * * * * *

Happy Anniversary, Mom and Dad.  Your relationship is an inspiration to everyone who knows you.  I love you both very much.

Do any of you have any marital secrets you’d like to share?  I’d love to know them…

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18 Comments on “49 Years”

  1. 1 aac said at 11:13 am on December 28th, 2010:

    Love this one, Moll. I should print it and keep in my pocket. Reminders are good. Grow and learn – support and push each other to grow, learn and stretch, stretch, stretch. Some of the best relationship nourishment around.

    XO to the dishy duo!

  2. 2 Kent Pelz said at 11:22 am on December 28th, 2010:

    Thanks, Molly. One of the things that has made our marriage work was — and is — our wonderful daughters. You were a joy when you were young and remain so today. Our mutual love for the two of you is one of the secret ingredients that makes our marriage so meaningful. We have a great family. And the grandkids are the frosting on the cake. Love, Dad

  3. 3 ayala said at 5:39 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    Wonderful Molly! Happy Anniversary to your parents! It’s funny today is my son Daniel’s birthday and I wrote a post about that. It’s a good thing when we have good things to celebrate :) by the way I love your dad’s comment:)
    ayala recently posted..Happy Birthday Daniel

  4. 4 MomZombie said at 7:08 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    Your mother and father’s union is an inspiration all right. I think the learning and growing aspect is the most important. People naturally grow and change over time. The key is to not grow apart.
    MomZombie recently posted..C what I mean

  5. 5 Molly Monet said at 8:23 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    Yes, my parents have done a great job of continuing to cultivate interests in common and growing and changing together.

  6. 6 Molly Monet said at 8:25 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    Thanks for the sweet comment Dad. My wonderful children are part of what make our peaceful divorce work, but sometimes children aren’t enough to keep you together. But luckily, they have allowed us to not drift apart completely.

  7. 7 Molly Monet said at 8:26 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    I’m glad that you liked it, dear. We have to have some good role models, huh?

  8. 8 Molly Monet said at 8:27 pm on December 28th, 2010:

    Ayala, celebrations keep our lives from becoming too routine and mundane. Plus, they are a great excuse to appreciate what is good in our lives.

  9. 9 Michele said at 1:12 pm on December 29th, 2010:

    What an amazing accomplishment! Congrats to them! My parents celebrated 50 years a few years ago and when ordering their cake all I could think to put on it was “50 Years, Wow,” or something like that. Wow. Fifty years is a long time!
    Michele recently posted..Wordles

  10. 10 T said at 1:57 pm on December 29th, 2010:

    Now that’s a beautiful thing right there…

    Thank you for sharing!
    T recently posted..Embracing my inner bitch for my birthday

  11. 11 Molly Monet said at 2:16 pm on December 29th, 2010:

    Yes, it is Michele. I’m going to post a piece soon about being divorced in a married family. It’s an interesting place to be.

  12. 12 Molly Monet said at 2:18 pm on December 29th, 2010:

    It is beautiful, and I have learned not to judge myself for not having a similar longevity. I’ll be posting soon about how I learned to gracefully give up that ideal.

  13. 13 How Did I End Up Divorced? | Postcards from a Peaceful Divorce said at 4:41 pm on December 29th, 2010:

    […] I posted about the inspiring longevity of my parents’ marriage and received admiring comments from some of my divorced friends, Michele, T, MomZombie, and AAC.  […]

  14. 14 Sustainable Marriage, Sustainable Divorce | Postcards from a Peaceful Divorce said at 10:24 am on January 2nd, 2011:

    […] person.  I was particularly interested in this quiz because I recently speculated that my own parents’ marriage has lasted 49 years because they have continually helped each other learn and grow.  Since my divorce, I feel like I am […]

  15. 15 Scott said at 10:16 pm on January 2nd, 2011:

    Ended up on your site somewhat randomly, and encountered this wonderful dialogue. Good family. :)

  16. 16 Molly Monet said at 10:28 pm on January 2nd, 2011:

    Thanks for participating in the conversation, Scott. Did you find me through the NYT Parker-Pope article? I am very grateful for my wonderful family.

  17. 17 Lucia said at 8:46 am on January 3rd, 2011:

    Beautiful, fresh poem. Excellente pic of your parents! Congratulations from Argentina,

  18. 18 Molly Monet said at 8:56 am on January 3rd, 2011:

    What fun to hear from an Argentine reader! Próspero año nuevo.

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